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Oct 12, 2004
Get The Most Out Of Your Day
Kathy Gates, Professional Life coach
Every day is a gift, but some sure don’t seem like it, do they?
Try these 7 tips to help you get the most out of even the
wettest, hottest, traffic-clogged, broken appliance, overdue
bill, out-of-milk, loud, cranky boss days.
1. Try Type-A Style.
It’s not always so much what you do, as “how” you do what you do.
Look for the easier way. Look for things that can help you.
Yes, you still have to do the laundry, and cook meals, but you
don’t have to make it all consuming. Keep it simple. Look for
ways to cut out some steps, like one shampoo instead of 6, and
one grocery day instead of everyday.
2. Attitude Counts.
Yes, you still have to do the laundry, and cook meals (hey,
didn’t we just cover that?) but if you acknowledge yourself for
doing a good job and remind yourself of the higher purpose that
this job is part of, instead of dwelling on the fact that you
“haveto” do it, you’ll feel better about the job itself.
3. Be A Friend.
To yourself, that is. Just for one day, consciously treat
yourself like you would treat a good friend. Would you talk to a
friend the way you talk to yourself? Take care of yourself. Get
enough sleep, eat in moderation, love yourself, and be kind to
yourself. You’re important – treat yourself that way.
4. Keep the Past in the Past.
Playing over and over good things in the past makes sense. It
helps to motivate you. But if it hurt you, what’s the point of
playing it and hurting over and over? Actively replace the
negative, draining thoughts with positive, motivating thoughts
instead. Practice it, and it will become second nature.
5. Build Your Own Dock.
Life is fluid, some good days, some not so good. Don’t get so
bogged down in the bad that you miss the good. Prepare yourself
to take advantage of the good things that come your way. Could
you accept a better job or Mr/Mrs. Right into your life right
now? If you’re not ahead of the game, you’ll always be playing
catch up. Build your own dock, so that ship you’re waiting for
has a place to dock.
6. What You See.
If you think the world is a bad place, that’s what you will see.
Every day you create your life, minute by minute, thought by
thought, action by action. If you eat candy all day, you’ll be
sick. If you put bad thoughts into your mind all day you’ll be
sick. Feed your mind good “food”. Listen to happy songs, watch
happy TV, choose positive friends. You decide how much your
smile, who you hug, where you go, and what you do. Choose well.
7. Accept Yourself, Warts and All.
A happy life is being able to accept that you aren’t perfect, and
taking responsibility for how it affects your own life as well as
those around you. “This is my problem, and this is how I’m
handling it.” Others will be encouraged by you, and you’ll be
better able to accept that they aren’t perfect either.
Kathy Gates is a Professional Life Coach in Scottsdale AZ. I
help people deal with the stress of every day living in a more
organized and efficient manner. Get more information at my
website Real Life Coach, http://www.reallifecoach.com/ and sign
up for the newsletter.
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Oct 6, 2004
Some Guidelines for Time Discipline:
1. Get up 15 minutes earlier and know what you are going to wear
that day.
2. Increase your reading and writing skills...learn to read
faster and write notes more promptly.
3. Develop the habit of making good notes. Keep reference notes
to guide you in your activities.
4. Be decisive - act fast.
5. Control your telephone habits (self discipline).
6. Don't get bogged down in details. "Don't major in minors." (My
good friend Bruce, the pastor (my ONLY "normal" friend) likes using
that expression - "good one"). Get
the important and hard jobs done first. Have a list of things to
do today, prioritise them and get started.
8. Look for short cuts to make things easier for you, ie. work
smarter and not necessarily harder.
9. Learn to take a break. One of the worst time stealers is to be
harassed and tired. Take frequent cat naps to conserve your energy,
like Winston Churchill and Margaret Thatcher did.
10. Stop day dreaming and just do it.
Finally...
"If you are rich, work.
If you are burdened with
seemingly unfair responsibilities, work.
If you are happy,
continue to work. Idleness gives room for doubts and fears.
If
sorrow overwhelms you and loved ones seem not true, work. If
disappointments come, work.
If faith falters and reason fails,
just work.
When dreams are shattered and hope seems dead, work.
Work as if your life were in peril; It really is.
No matter
what ails you, work.
Work faithfully and work with faith.
Work is the greatest material remedy available.
Work will cure both
mental and physical afflictions.
Work."
- author unknown
..and keep trusting life (God) and most importantly,
BE HAPPY.
Craig Lock
Eagle Productions ("Infomation and Inspiration Distributer")
A rather philosophical and deep after-thought,
that I "tort" I'd share these beautiful words with you...
"Time is too slow for those who wait,
too slow for those who fear,
too long for those that grieve,
too short for those who rejoice.
But for those who love,
TIME IS ETERNAL."
-anon
"Eagles may fly high, but weasels don't get sucked into jet engines."
"You can fly with the eagles or scratch with the turkeys?"
About the author:
Craig Lock has written extensively in the field of self
help. This extract is from his first published book
HANDBOOK TO SURVIVE - a collection of writings on various
subjects to help every man or woman survive in a rapidly
changing, uncertain world.
Books* by Craig Lock (including "Handbook to Survive") are available
at:
http://www.craiglock.com/books.html
* Fiction and non-fiction books, novels, travel, humour.
My dear dad, Ray Lock has written an amazing and fascinating book
about his first-hand war time (WWII) experiences, titled "Dorsetshire,
Bismarck and Memories", which is currently being launched in South
Africa.
For further info on this brand new book, click on
http://www.bridgeniche.com/raylock/index.html
P.S: Don't worry about the world ending today... it's already
tomorrow in "little" scenic and tranquil New Zealand
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Oct 5, 2004
During a flight between New York and Chicago, the captain made this
announcement over the plane's intercom: "Our number four engine has
just been shut off because of mechanical trouble. There is nothing to
worry about, however, and we can still finish the flight with just
three engines. Besides, you will be reassured to know that we have
four bishops on board."
An 86-year-old woman called the flight attendant and said, "Would you
please tell the captain that I would rather have four engines and
three bishops!" Experience taught her to place her trust in the
aircraft rather than passengers -- even if they're bishops!
Experience, likewise, has taught us to be careful of what and whom we
trust. We learn to be careful trusting risky investments, offers to
make easy money, people we don't know, and anything that seems "too
good to be true." We are sometimes even afraid to trust ourselves!
Helen Keller learned a great deal about trust in her life as one who
was both sightless and deaf. She learned to trust people, upon whom
she was often dependent. She learned to trust herself and lived a
highly productive life in spite of her handicapping
conditions. As a noted writer and thinker, she taught us that trust is
vital to any happy life.
That great woman believed there are four great things to learn in
life. They are:
To think clearly without hurry or confusion;
To love everyone sincerely;
To act in everything with the highest motives;
To trust God unhesitatingly.
Trust. It is a small word which can make a big difference.
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Steve Goodier Publisher@LifeSupportSystem.com is a professional
speaker, consultant and author of numerous books. Visit his site for
more information, or to sign up for his FREE newsletter of Life, Love
and Laughter at http://LifeSupportSystem.com.
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Oct 2, 2004
Asbestos Poisoning Symptoms. Are you at Risk?
400,000 New Yorkers Breathed the most Toxic Pollutant.
Asbestos Poisoning Symptoms. Are you at Risk?
Copyright © 2004 Thelioma.com
http://www.thelioma.com
Recent study of U.S. government provides the latest evidence of
a systematic cover-up of the health toll from pollution after
the 9/11 disaster, which doctors fear will cause more deaths
than the attacks themselves.
Belfast Telegraph says, The Bush administration suppressed
evidence of increasing danger and officially announced that
the air around the felled buildings was "safe to breathe".
But results of the government study, conducted by a consortium
of researchers at Mount Sinai School of Medicine, Columbia
University, New York University, Johns Hopkins University, The
University of Medicine and Dentistry of New Jersey, and the
University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill, show exposure-related
increases in new-onset cough, wheeze, shortness of breath, and
bronchial hyperreactivity more than 2½ years after the disaster.
Ambient air samples showed that asbestos levels in the WTC area
were initially elevated following the September 11 attacks, but
fell to within federal standards after the first few days.
"More research is needed to determine whether long-term exposure
to asbestos fibers might lead to an increased risk of lung
mesothelioma, a rare cancer that has been linked to asbestos
exposure," said Landrigan. "Previous studies have shown the short
chrysotile fibers found in the WTC dust to be the predominant
fiber in lung mesothelioma tissue."
It is important to note that symptoms of mesothelioma may not
appear until 30-50 years after exposure to asbestos.
Often symptoms of pleural mesothelioma are:
* shortness of breath,
* pain in the chest
Peritoneal mesothelioma symptoms include:
* weight loss,
* abdominal pain,
* swelling,
* bowel obstruction,
* blood clotting,
* anemia,
* fever.
If the cancer has spread beyond the mesothelium to other parts
of the body, symptoms may include pain, trouble swallowing, or
swelling of the neck or face.
It is very important to see a doctor about any of these symptoms.
Only a doctor can make a diagnosis.
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Educate yourself on mesothelioma, asbestos and class action
lawsuits. Check out latest breaking news on
at http://www.thelioma.com.
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Sep 30, 2004
The Top 10 Ways to Overcome Procrastination
by ADD Management Coach Jennifer Koretsky
© Copyright 2004
When a person is bored or uninterested, certain tasks and
projects can seem like torture! This feeling usually leads
to procrastination, and procrastination often leads to
guilt. Here are some practical ways to avoid these
situations and overcome procrastination:
1. Recharge Daily
Be sure to get enough sleep and rest each day so that you
have the necessary energy you need to accomplish your
tasks.
2. Get a Friend Involved
It's harder to procrastinate when another person is
involved. If you have a task you aren't looking forward to,
invite a friend over to help you out. If you have errands
to run, find a buddy who you can run errands with.
3. Reward Yourself
You're much more likely to complete that boring task if
there is a dinner out or a new CD waiting for you when (and
only when) the task is complete.
4. Do Things in Pieces
Procrastination often comes from feelings of overwhelm.
Break tasks, even small ones, into steps so that they are
manageable and provide you with a sense of direction.
5. Use Music
Turn on some fun and upbeat music and let it pump you up!
80s music and showtunes are often great pick-me-ups that
will give you needed energy to tackle your tasks.
6. Don't Be Afraid to do 2 Things at Once
Don't be afraid to balance routine or monotonous tasks with
something that is more likely to hold your interest. You
can pay bills while you watch TV, or talk on the phone while
cleaning up the house.
7. Delegate
Do you find yourself procrastinating on chores at home like
cleaning and laundry? Or maybe paperwork at the office?
Delegate them! Kids, cleaning people, laundry services,
administrative assistants and more are all available to take
some of those boring tasks off your list and free up your
time for the stuff you'd rather be doing.
8. Prioritize
Perhaps you're procrastinating on a task because it's really
not that important. Maybe you'd love to re-organize your
book shelves, but never get around to it. If it sounds like
a good idea but in the end it's really not that important to
you, don't let it hang over your head.
9. Get in Touch with the End Result
Before you begin a task or project that has high
procrastination potential, get in touch with the outcome.
When the task is finished, what will that mean to you? What
will be better in life as a result?
10. Just Do It!!
Don't think about it too much, just jump in and get it
done!
About the Author:
Jennifer Koretsky is an ADD Management Coach who helps
adults learn how to manage their ADD and move forward in
life. She offers individual and group coaching, workshops,
and skill-building programs. Her work has been featured in
various media, including The New York Times Magazine and The
London Times. Subscribe to Jennifer's free email newsletter,
The ADD Management Guide, by visiting
http://www.ADDmanagement.com/e-newsletter.htm.
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Sep 29, 2004
by Steve Goodier
Listen to how a simple ball of yarn became a web of love for one
classroom of high school students.
Their teacher seated the students in a circle on the carpeted floor.
One member of the group was instructed to toss a ball of yarn to
someone across the circle, holding tightly to one end. The recipient
took hold of the string and listened as the one who tossed it shared
something that she especially liked about him. Keeping hold of the
string, he then tossed the ball across the circle to someone else and
affirmed something positive about her. The ball of yarn was tossed
across and around the circle until everyone had both heard and shared
encouragement...and thus the yarn became a woven web of love and good
feelings....
Before they went their separate ways, the teacher took scissors and
snipped through the web. Each person took a piece of yarn away as a
remembrance of the special words they heard. Surprisingly, many of
them wore cherished pieces of yarn around their wrists for days and
weeks afterward.
Every year now, students ask their teacher to end the term with the
Web of Love. It has become an annual tradition in their high school!
Which goes to show how much encouragement means to most people.
Why wait? We can find opportunities to affirm others throughout the
day. Few people grow weary of hearing sincere appreciation and praise.
And each time you give it you help to create an invisible web of love
that can last a lifetime.
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Steve Goodier Publisher@LifeSupportSystem.com is a professional
speaker, consultant and author of numerous books. Visit his site for
more information, or to sign up for his FREE newsletter of Life, Love
and Laughter at http://LifeSupportSystem.com.
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Sep 24, 2004
WHY POSITIVE THINKING DOESN'T WORK
Copyright © 2004 Julie Plenty
Life Design newsletter
There was someone I used to work with who, well aware
of their tendency to look at the negative side of things,
used to constantly tell themselves to "think more
positively".
This was said with such a feeling of desperation that I just
knew that not only would they NOT think positively, they
would probably go even further into negative thinking. The
mere fact that they kept pushing themselves to "think
positively" was a sign that this would ultimately be
counterproductive.
So many of us have interpreted the desire to be positive
thinkers in a very narrow and ultimately ineffective way.
The push to be positive often results in ignoring our
true feelings. Instead of recognizing that we don't always
feel positive and learning how to convert and turn round our
feelings, it so often ends up with us denying them
altogether.
The Law of Attraction, as defined by Abraham Hicks states
that "you attract to yourself what you give your attention
and energy to, whether wanted or unwanted".
One reason why positive thinking doesn't work is that our
focus is in the wrong place. So we say "I don't want to be
ill" and believe that this thought will prevent us from
being ill. So where is our focus? On being ill!
Because the Universe doesn't recognize "not" or "don't".
How many times have you told yourself NOT to forget
something and then what happens? Oops you've forgotten it!
Another reason why positive thinking doesn't work is that we
often veil our negative feelings with a positive surface.
positivity. So we say "I want a loving relationship".
Sounds good right? Underneath this is the hidden message
that having a loving relationship wouldn't even be an issue
- unless you'd been in one or a series of not so loving
relationships.
So it's the hidden message and negative feeling around it,
that is still coming through. Ultimately, you're still
pushing against something and it's still
counterproductive. You're likely to attract more unloving
relationships, even though you THINK you've stated
otherwise.
How can you begin to reverse this? Rather than focusing on
your thoughts, focus on your feelings about a given
situation or what you would like the situation to be. Start
to visualise and sense what you truly desire. Focus on
ramping up good, positive, energetic feelings about what
you desire, rather than the thought.
Practically you can do this by building a "creation box" of
pictures, ideas, notes, to stimulate your imagination of how
you'd like things to be. Appreciating lifes abundance in
what you already have by keeping an appreciation journal,
feeling and acting like the prosperous person you actually
are and channelling your good feelings into what you desire.
In fact, instead of being a positive thinker, aim to become
a positive feeler - it's much more visceral and real. Live
your life as though you already have what you desire and
you'll make way for it to come to you.
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Julie Plenty helps writers, artists and photographers
prosper in their business by helping them build a strong
personal foundation, because they ARE their business. For
more self growth and personal development articles, and to
sign up for her Life Design newsletter, visit:
http://www.self-help-personal-development.com
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Sep 21, 2004
How To Get Motivated When You Have An Off Day
by Peter Murphy
Sometimes you just don´t have the energy to get excited,
motivated or inspired enough to do what has to be done.
What can you do on days like these?
There are three simple yet powerful ways to pull yourself
out of a slump. And best of all you can start using these
strategies today.
1. Complete Something
It is very important to start and finish something when you
need to get back on track.
Pick a small task, one that can be done in 5-10 minutes.
Then ignore everything else and devote all of your
attention to completing that task.
When you have finished it you will feel a lot better about
dealing with all of the other jobs that need to be done.
One small success leads to much greater success.
Now, simply the repeat the process with another small task
until you build some momentum.
2. Set Tight Time Deadlines
On days that you feel sluggish work in 30 minute blocks.
Tell yourself you only need to focus for the next 30
minutes and then get started on the next task at hand.
If you feel very unmotivated work for 20 minute or even 15
minute time periods. The key is to get busy and do the best
you can.
Then take a quick break and acknowledge the progress you
are making. One small step after the next will take you to
where you want to go.
3. Read Or Listen To Motivational Material
You need to inspire yourself to greater success on a daily
basis. This is important because of the negativity that
bombards us from other people and the media.
If you don´t take charge of your thinking someone else will
do it for you. Thinking about the positive instead of the
negative requires a daily commitment. It is a choice we all
make each day.
And remember...
You are not expected to be highly motivated and driven on a
empty tank. Give yourself positive fuel each and everyday
and you will be consistently more motivated.
Make a point of feeding your mind with positive input each
and every day and your attitude will become consistently
more positive. You will feel more motivated even on the off
days.
Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently
produced a very popular free report, the 5 Step Motivation
Report. Apply now because it is available for a limited
time only at:
http://www.getmotivatedstaymotivated.com/special.htm
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