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Jan 26, 2005
Healthy Living News, v. 2, no. 2, January 20, 2005

 

In this issue you'll find the following health updates:

1. Cancer Surpasses Heart Disease--Don't Let This Fool You!
2. C-Reactive Protein (CRP), Statins, and Heart Disease
3. Statin Drugs Over-the-counter?
4. New 2005 Dietary Guidelines
5. Red Wine and Your Heart
6. Shocking, Yet Not So Surprising
7. Wear Red
8. What Are Your Health Goals for 2005?

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1. Cancer Surpasses Heart Disease--Don't Let This Fool You!

According to new numbers from the American Cancer Society
(ACS), in 2005 more people under the age of 85 will die
of cancer than of heart disease. While the death rate from
many cancers is decreasing due to decreased smoking and
progress in treating those cancers, the number of cases for
other cancers is growing due to our increasingly unhealthy
diets and our overweight epidemic. 

Does this mean that you should forget about heart disease
and just start focusing on fighting cancer? Not at all, as
both are very serious issues. However, the American Heart
Association notes that the ACS estimate only compares cancer
deaths to the number of heart disease deaths, and excludes
the other closely-related cardiovascular diseases. Heart
disease, stroke, and the other cardiovascular diseases
together still take two out of every five of us (40%), and
largely stem from the same issues that lead to cancer.

Leading a healthy lifestyle is the best way to prevent all
these serious and deadly diseases, and you can save
yourself if you know how. (You'll find lots of crucial
life-saving information in A Woman's Guide to Saving
Her Own Life, at http://www.saveherlife.com). 

2. C-Reactive Protein (CRP), Statins, and Heart Disease 

We've discussed the promise of C-reactive protein (CRP)
testing (http://www.mellaniehills.com/healthyliving3.htm).
Just what does C-reactive protein (CRP) testing do? It's
a simple blood test that indicates high levels of
inflammation or infection in the body, which may indicate
potential heart disease, stroke, colon cancer, or other
diseases. CRP may soon become more important then
cholesterol testing in foretelling your risk of heart
disease, especially since half of those having heart
attacks have normal cholesterol.  

Several new studies just published in the New England
Journal of Medicine showed that medications that reduce
the levels of C-reactive protein in heart patients can
also reduce their risk of heart attacks and cardiac death.
One of those studies found that patients on statin drugs
to lower their cholesterol not only saw a drop in their
bad cholesterol (LDL) levels, but also saw a drop in their
CRP readings and in the number of heart attacks they
experienced. The next step in this clinical trial is to
determine if healthy patients experience the same results.

Though CRP is not a formally-recommended test, if you have
risk factors for heart disease it might be prudent to ask
your doctor about CRP testing. If a CRP test shows that
you have high inflammation numbers, you must do something
about your risk factors immediately.

Coincidentally, there has been recent evidence that
alpha-linolenic acid (ALA), found in soybean oil,
flaxseed, nuts, and leafy green vegetables, can decrease
CRP levels, and other testing has shown the impact of
vitamins in decreasing CRP. (See A Woman's Guide to Saving
Her Own Life for more details about CRP, including the
impact of diet and vitamin supplements on CRP.)

3. Statin Drugs Over-the-counter?

The FDA just turned down a drug company request to sell
statin drugs over the counter. Over-the-counter sales
appear inevitable as this has been approved in the United
Kingdom, but doing so now in the US might be premature.
Statins are tricky and should only be taken under a
doctor's watchful supervision due to the possibility of
liver, muscle, and other problems that can happen with
some statins.      

4. New 2005 Dietary Guidelines

The USDA just released the new 2005 Dietary Guidelines,
replacing the old 2000 USDA Food Pyramid that had been
under attack for being obsolete due to advances in
nutritional science. The new guidelines are far more
complex and don't lend themselves easily to a pyramid so
we've yet to see how they will be visually displayed.

The new guidelines focus on determining your daily calorie
requirements and balancing that by getting 30-90 minutes
per day of physical activity, depending upon whether you
wish to maintain or lose weight. (By the way, this
30-90 minutes is already under attack.)

There is also a more intense focus on the number of
servings of specific foods required to get needed vitamins
and minerals. Eating vegetables is important, but just got
more complex due to the breakdown of vegetables into five
groups, with recommended servings per week for each group.
In addition, the guidelines recommend that half of your
daily grain intake should be whole grains.

You can find the detailed 2005 dietary guidelines at
http://www.health.gov/dietaryguidelines/dga2005/document/
(or use my distilled and simplified recommendations from
them in A Woman's Guide to Saving Her Own Life).

5. Red Wine and Your Heart

The latest issue of Circulation, a journal of the American
Heart Association, provides an interesting look at
Red Wine and Your Heart (http://circ.ahajournals.org/
cgi/content/full/111/2/e10?etoc) that is based on a
review of the existing scientific literature.
 
Data from 51 studies showed a 20% decrease in heart
disease risk when 0 to 2 alcoholic drinks were consumed
per day, and light to moderate alcohol consumption was
associated with an approximately 20% reduction in
(ischemic) stroke risk.

Is red wine better? The results conflict--some studies
showed up to a 32% heart disease risk reduction while
others showed no such beneficial effect, leading
researchers to surmise that factors such as diet, exercise,
or socioeconomic status might have been at work.

However, red wine's chemical composition (alcohol and
polyphenolic compounds, such as flavonoids and resveratrol)
appears to help maintain healthy blood vessels. Regular
alcohol consumption also appears to increase good (HDL)
cholesterol by about 12%, and to carry away the bad
(LDL) cholesterol so that it doesn't deposit itself in
the blood vessels. In addition, those who consume light
to moderate alcohol have less of the proteins that
encourage blood clots to form.

In spite of all this evidence, the researchers concluded
that the evidence is still insufficient as light alcohol
consumption has also been frequently shown to contribute
to cardiovascular disorders and recommending alcohol use
is risky due to other alcohol-related health concerns.
The American Heart Association recommends discussing this
with your physician, as do I. But it's good to know the
facts behind what we so frequently read.

As an aside, the effect of alcohol on the brain is also
being studied. A newly-released study of more than 11,000
nurses that was led by Harvard Medical School researchers
definitively linked alcohol consumption and the brain with
their finding that one drink or less per day prevents
cognitive decline in women. Presumably, the same would
apply to men, but requires further study. 
    
6. Shocking, Yet Not So Surprising

A study found that cardiologists in New York don't always
perform emergency angioplasties on patients that come to
the emergency room with heart attacks because they don't
want to hurt their physician scorecard rankings.
Seventy-nine per cent of those responding said that their
decision had at some time been influenced by knowing that
their statistics would be made public. This is just one
more reason to be extremely proactive about your own health.
(The New York Times) 

7. Wear Red

February is National Heart Month, and February 4 is
National Wear Red Day. Wear red to raise awareness that
heart disease is not only the number 1 killer of men,
but also of women. Call 1-888-MY-HEART to receive your
free red dress pin and wear it with pride.  For more
information, go to http://www.americanheart.org/
presenter.jhtml?identifier=3017091

Men, please wear red, too, to show your support for your
wives, mothers, sisters, daughters, friends, and
employees.

8. What Are Your Health Goals for 2005?

Don't forget—please send me what health goals you've set
for 2005 and how I can help you reach them. Please take
a moment to e-mail me to let me know at mhills @
mellaniehills.com (remove spaces). I'd love to know:
 
 * Do you make New Year's resolutions? Do you keep them?
 * What are your goals or resolutions for 2005?
 * How can I help you reach them?
 * How will you pamper yourself this year?

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A Woman's Guide to Saving Her Own Life
(http://www.saveherlife.com) includes the secrets to how
I easily lost 85 pounds and how you can lose weight, too.
It's not just for women. Save yourself and your loved ones.
Get off to a great start for 2005!

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Please, take care of yourself. 

Wishing you health, happiness, and longevity,
Mellanie True Hills

Copyright 2005 Mellanie True Hills.  All Rights Reserved.

About the Author:

Mellanie True Hills (http://www.mellaniehills.com),
The Health & Productivity Revitalizer(SM), is a
speaker, consultant, coach, and author of 'A Woman's
Guide to Saving Her Own Life'. Read two chapters online
at http://www.SaveHerLife.com

 


 

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Jan 7, 2005
Get What You Want In 2005!


Copyright 2004 JoAnna Carey, Carey'D Away Enterprises, LLC.


Let’s talk about New Year’s Resolutions. Do you set the same
resolutions over and over, year after year, with the same
results? Do you procrastinate, avoid the issue, confess to
being lazy or come up with a zillion reasons why you will do
something about those pesky resolutions tomorrow? Then, do
you hear that little voice in the back of your mind that
whispers, “You have a whole year to make these changes,
right?”

Take charge! Don’t journey into 2005 doing exactly what
you’ve always done and expect miraculously different
results. The following tips will show you how to stop
sulking, to develop a clear sense of purpose and to stride
boldly into 2005.

Start with buying yourself a nice journal or at the very
least set aside a notepad that you will use to record your
journey into the New Year. Begin with a few positive
sentences about your greatest accomplishments of 2004. Then,
jot down some of the mistakes or obstacles that kept life
interesting but are better left in 2004. Now, write down
your list of resolutions for 2005. This doesn’t have to be
fancy or grammatically correct it is just a place for you to
note your ideas in an effort to develop that clear sense of
purpose. The following quiz can help you explore how and why
you choose these particular resolutions.

1) Is your list the same or a similar list to the one you
wrote last year?

2) How many years have you used this same list without
achieving the results you sought?

3) Are you setting goals to please others or to please yourself?

4) Why did you set each resolution on your list?
To answer this WHY question, consider the following:

a) Think back to who you were when you first decided upon
each resolution.
b) Are there any resolutions on your list that don’t apply
to your life right now?
c) Why did you want to accomplish each goal when you first
set the intentions?
d) Was there or is there someone else in your
life that influenced you to add any of the resolutions?
e) Why do you want to accomplish each goal now?
f) When, or by what date, do you want to achieve each goal?
g) What specific steps will you take this year to achieve your
resolutions?

5) What are you really trying to achieve in 2005?

6) CHALLENGE: List at least ONE thing you will do differently
than you have ever done before to make your dreams a reality
in 2005!

Now, look at your resolutions from a whole new angle. Start
with a blank page and develop a list of everything you have
ever wanted to do. That’s right, everything. Ignore all
resolutions, obligations, fears, costs or any other
obstacles that may prevent you from adding an item to your
list. Just write anything that comes to mind when you
reflect on everything that you have ever wanted to do. To
develop a clear sense of purpose for the New Year, take the
list and choose at least two things that you will commit to
accomplishing in 2005. Then, write out a few steps that will
help you begin the journey of attaining something that
really has meaning!

Here’s the fun part. Compare your list of everything you
have ever wanted to do with your initial New Year’s
resolutions. Are there common themes between what you will
set out to conquer in 2005 and what you hope to conquer when
you consider everything you would like to do with the rest
of your life? If the two lists don’t show similar desires,
what are you waiting for?

Make 2005 the year that you change the way you set and REACH
your New Year’s resolutions. An effective way to tackle
resolutions is by committing to take one step each week so
the goals become more than just intentions; they become
habits. If you are averse to the thought of change taking an
entire year, then commit to a time schedule that feels right
for your situation. You’ll see results with every week that
you take action! This is your life, so set your own rules
and work at your own pace. If it does take you an entire
year to reach those resolutions, think of it this way:
what's a year when it means a happier rest of your life?

All Rights Reserved. * Adapted from the book Rat Race
Relaxer:Your Potential & The Maze of Life by JoAnna Carey.

About The Author:

JoAnna Carey, aka “The Rat Race Relaxer,” is available for
radio, TV and print interviews. She’s an energetic, young
entrepreneur who merges her life experience and business
success to perform enjoyable, influential presentations. She
is the producer and host of her own weekly television
program titled The Rat Race Relaxer™ Show and the author of
Rat Race Relaxer: Your Potential & The Maze of Life. Contact
Carey’D Away Enterprises, LLC; http://www.RatRaceRelaxer.com.

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Dec 27, 2004
A *New* New Year's Resolution

by Susie Cortright

This is the time of year when it's most difficult to stay on
track with our goals.

It's also the time of year when we're all in a rush to make
new ones.

It seems to me that we all have a certain ideal, a certain
way of living, that gets completely blown each holiday season.

We can't stick to a diet because, every
time we turn around, we're met with a truffle. Either the
house is in shambles with suitcases, pine needles,
candle wax, and dirty dishes, or we're not even home.
We're out of our routine. Our minds are chattery. Our
bodies are in crisis mode, searching in vain for some
broccoli and a treadmill.

I would like to suggest that this is not the ideal time
of year for any serious and purposeful reflection.

During the holidays, we are buried to the neck in
"shoulds" and "should nots." We should not get snappy at Aunt Bernice.
We should not be eating crème sauce on the vegetables.
We should be spending at least an hour a day at the
gym.

It seems to me that most New Year's Resolutions are
cleverly disguised and noble-sounding "shoulds." And
who needs more of those right now?

In fact, this year, for me, there will be a paring
down--and not a building up--of the shoulds. Over the
past month, I have re-examined my shoulds to determine
which belong there, and which, out of kindness and
gentleness and plain-and-simple personal integrity, do not.

It started with a day of deliberateness; a day
in which I questioned all of my assumptions.
Before I popped anything into my mouth,
I asked myself whether I liked its taste--or whether I was simply
accustomed to it.

I walked through my home, taking a long and
deliberate look at the furnishings, decor, and
knick knacks to see whether I really liked them and
whether they served any meaningful purpose.

Then I took the same eye to my list of shoulds.
The experience was really rather liberating.
To attempt to adopt an unbiased perspective and
asking: Do I really like this? Is this really good
for me? Is this really important to me?

At the end of such a day, I demanded honesty from
myself as I answered: What do I truly value? What
is most important to me? How important is my
spirituality, my family, my professional identity?

Then I crafted a new mission statement, written for
me and my work. Who am I? Who am I to be?

This is such a wonderful instrument for clarifying
your purpose in life. Your mission statement may include your
values, your priorities, your philosophy, your
commitments, your goals. How do you wish your
children to live? Are you living in such a way?

It allows you to identify and define your life
philosophy. Your spiritual beliefs. That which you
find useful. That which you find beautiful.

When you write such a statement, do so in the present
tense. Sign the statement in bold ink and place it
where you'll read it at the start of every day.

Then expect a shake-up of your shoulds. You may be
surprised at the subtraction of certain long-standing
and familiar goals, and the addition of some unexpected
new ones.

Don't rush the process. Let it rise organically from a
careful study of your life and the way you endeavor to
live it, deliberately.

Recommendation:
One wonderful tool for allowing changes to naturally take
hold of our conscions mind is to re-train the way
our mind takes on these new challenges. The Think Right Now
audio series is a powerful (and empowering) way to do that. Read our
review: http://www.momscape.com/thinkrightnow/reviews.htm
or visit the main site directly:
http://www.momscape.com/thinkrightnow


About the author:
Susie Cortright is the editor of two "just for you" websites:
BestSelfHelp.com, which saves you time and money by cataloging
the best personal growth tools, and Momscape.com, devoted
to helping busy parents find balance. Today, Momscape visitors
receive Susie's "6 Days to Less Stress" course free:
http://www.momscape.com. And BestSelfHelp visitors receive free
online self-help books: http://www.bestselfhelp.com


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Dec 14, 2004
How To Find A Little 'Me' Time Amid The Christmas Chaos


By Sherrie Le Masurier


Especially at Christmas when we have a tendency to feel stressed
and overwhelmed, it is important to schedule in a little 'me' time.

Go For A Walk
Sharpen your senses with a brisk walk. The fresh air will wake you
up, giving you that extra burst of energy you need to finish some of
the tasks at hand.

Light A Candle
Enjoy a few minutes of peace and quiet. Let the flicker of the
candlelight soothe your soul and revive your spirit.

Listen To Music
Put in a CD or tune in the radio to a favorite station. Take a
momentary time out by losing yourself in the beat or use the gentle
rhythm as a backdrop to the snowflakes falling outside your window.

Begin A Christmas Journal
Write down some memories - the good and the bad, the events you
attend and the special moments you've shared with loved ones.

Call A Friend
Touch base with a friend you haven't seen in a while. Catch up on old
times and let her feed your soul - like only good friends can.

Sherrie Le Masurier, lifestyle columnist and co-owner of Family Sanity
Savers
invites you  to download your FREE ebook "Gifts From The Heart, Not The
Pocketbook"
at http://www.familysanitysavers.com/

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Dec 13, 2004
Not One Ounce: Candy at your house

-- Will Clower, Ph.D.
www.fatfallacy.com

Here come the candy canes. In our house, Santa always hung
Hershey’s Kisses on the tree. Red and Green M&Ms cohabitate
with the micro-Reese’s peanut butter cups in the candy dish.
The holiday season is an excuse for saturating your house
with sugar in all its forms.

And you want to be festive. You don’t want to be a Scrooge
about things. But you also know that if it makes it in the
door, you will eat it.

The Short Term Problem
Sugar not only provides needless calories for your expanding
horizons, but also destabilizes your insulin levels – a
result that can lead to overweight, obesity, and even
diabetes.

Remember that sugar is not the problem. Overconsumption of
sugar is the problem. There is nothing wrong with sugar per
se, only when you eat it as a jelly doughnut chased with a
soda and a candy cane!

The Long Term Problem
Sugar consumption leads to more sugar consumption. Anyone
with a weight problem will recognize the slippery slope this
can become – the more you eat, the more you want to eat.
This is so deadly for your weight, leading straight into a
spiral that circles the weight gain drain.


The Solution
For your house.
Ban the sugar bomb. Don’t even bring it inside. If you need
to have nibbles about, use unsalted nuts or fruit. Remember
fruit? Apples come in single serving sizes, wrapped in a
handy, edible, holiday colored packaging! Tangerines are
fabulous to have around. If you have guests over, set a few
olives out. They are so great for you, and you can’t take 27
of them in your hand and down them all at once.

For your weight.
If you do find your house with candies about, you have got
to make it your policy to eat only one of them at a time.
One M&M? Yes. One mint? Yes. Eat one and walk away to do
something else. Learn this habit and burn it in. This will
save you a ton of calories.

For your health.
Remember that brown sugar is better for you than white
sugar. So if you do use it, darker is better. If you do have
chocolate, darker is better because it has more cocoa and
less sugar. Remember that fruit, although it has sugar, also
has the fiber that lowers the glycemic index of the juice.
In other words, it doesn’t just make you tired and hungry
like plain sugar can.


__________________________________
Dr. Will Clower is the award-winning author of The Fat
Fallacy and founder of The PATH Curriculum, The PATH Online,
and Newsletter.

The PATH: America’s weight solution.
Dr. Clower can be reached on his website
www.fatfallacy.com.

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Dec 10, 2004
Creating Magic: Beliefs and Make-Believe, A Life and Holiday Season Make-Over

By Inna Nirenburg

Where's the magic? When was the last time you got up in the morning brimming with excitement, unable to keep still because of all the exuberant possibilities that the day ahead was holding for you? All those fun adventures, mischievous plans, playful projects...

Kids will often experience this kind of unbearable excitement for the day ahead - for life itself. They have not yet taken on so many beliefs about life that many of us, adults, have accumulated over the years. What are your beliefs, the messages playing in your head? Tune in, look at what's there.

Is it something like: life is hard; you don't get anything for free; you work hard and then you die; it's always a struggle; you have to pay your dues; you have to take things seriously; life isn't fair; my life stinks; I never get a break...? You've probably had these, or other variations of such thoughts spinning through your mind at various points - either consciously or not.

And what's the experience - in your emotions, in your body - from these thoughts? Probably something like a heaviness, a slowness, constriction in your body, along with hopelessness, isolation, sadness, anger...

(And even now, notice your experience in your body and your energy level as you read this - I would bet that your emotions and body sensations have changed even from the beginning of this article! That's what focusing on these messages does.)

We, adults, often miss the main, critical point here. This is that our beliefs, even those we hold as the truth and are really attached to, are just that - beliefs that we hold as truth and are really attached to. The truly amazing thing is that as humans, we totally have the power to shift our beliefs, and our points of view - and thus our whole reality as we perceive it.

Lofty words, perhaps, but a very powerful concept.

Lets take the impending holiday season as an example. What are your beliefs about the holidays? Often we hear things like: it's a zoo out there; I hate dealing with family drama, and there's always family drama; there's never enough time to do everything, and certainly no time left for me; everything has to be perfect; I wish it were just over already; I hate dealing with the budgets, the craziness, the commercialisms of it all; and on and on and on.

Yet, do you see - all of these are just beliefs, just ways of focusing your attention. And how bizarre that most of us will choose to focus our attention outside of ourselves, to fall victim to circumstance. Yet, it is not the external circumstances that truly affect us - it is our beliefs about those circumstances. And here's the key - there are always things you can do to change these beliefs, and to re-focus your attention. I guarantee it - this will change your whole outlook and reality. Even if no outward changes take place.

For example: sure, there's commercialism aplenty this time of year, and it can get to you. How about switching off the TV and doing your shopping on the internet instead? Yea, family drama can erupt this time of year. But how about re-focusing on the gratitude of having people in your life to share the holidays with? Of course, budgets can be strained by gift-buying. Why not brainstorm fun and inexpensive gift ideas - maybe create a cooking or arts project with your kids or your best friend and make your own unique holiday gifts?

The possibilities are endless. Your attention, where you focus your energy, will determine what kind of holiday season you'll have. It's your choice - a bah- humbug grumpy season, or a creative and joyful magical time (or anything in between)!

Plant the Seeds:

1. What are your beliefs about life? Take a moment, and see what messages play in your head.

2. What are your beliefs about the holidays? What do you keep telling yourself and other folks close to you about the holidays?

3. What can you re-focus your attention on to bring the joy back?

4. Begin to notice your body sensations and emotions. Name them. They are likely pointing you to an unhelpful belief or thought process.

5. Finally - re-read the first paragraph of this article, and connect with that mischievous, magical, excited place inside. From here, what actions can you take this holiday season to make it fun and special?

Inna Nirenburg is a powerful life coach and workshop leader. She uses her deep wisdom and intuition, as well as a concrete actionable process, to help you answer the question "What's Next?" in all areas of your life. See http://www.heyWhatsNext.com for more information.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/

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Dec 8, 2004
5 Ways To Reduce Holiday Stress

Copyright 2004 JoAnna Carey, Carey'D Away Enterprises, LLC.
http://www.joannacarey.com \

Are those bells ringing in your ears a sign of holiday cheer
or a sign of too much stress? Don't let this Holiday Season
slip by in a blur of over scheduling. Commit to making
changes -- one step at a time and you'll discover the gift
of a more enjoyable year-end celebration. As you juggle the
complexities of work, home and family, here are 5 simple
steps that may help you become as jolly as ol' St. Nick. 

5. Develop an list of everything you would like to do THIS
Holiday Season, then prioritize in order to get the most
amount of joy from the limited amount of time you have to
spend with family, friends and coworkers. Remember, this
year's priorities may look different than those of holidays
past! 

4. Express gratitude. What a great time of year to thank all
of those people who make your life worth living! Don't let
the hustle and bustle of the season steal away your
opportunity to be thankful for the people, experiences and
events (both good and bad) that made this year unique and
memorable. If you're sending greeting cards, why not add a
personalized message about why you are thankful for having
the recipient in your life.

3. Learn to say NO -- put YOU first sometimes. It's ok to
say no! I repeat: it is ok to say NO! Schedule some "alone
time" during the holidays so you can reduce the temptation
to take on too many responsibilities that may cause a
meltdown at the worst possible moment. 

2. Choose your battles wisely. As the end of the year
quickly approaches, you may be pulled in too many directions
and it may be impossible for you to attend every get
together. Holidays are often full of over taxed emotions so,
rather than succumbing to a confrontation, try to approach
each situation as an opportunity to accommodate the most
important needs of those involved. Express your opinion
about the little things that are causing extra stress
instead of hiding those emotions that may cause your temper
to reach the boiling point. 

1. Life really is about the journey. Savor the moments! That
is a difficult concept for those of us who are always
striving toward a particular goal. Savoring the moment means
allowing yourself enough time to celebrate each activity
before rushing on to the next event. 

BONUS Stress Reducer: The Rat Race Relaxer Book provides 52
stress busting tips -- one for every week of 2005 -- that
will challenge you and your friends to get what you want in
return for running the rat race!

While the keys may appear simple, they are guaranteed to
help you tackle the rat race head-on, and turn it into a
race than can be run --and won-- by charting your own course
rather than navigating someone else's. 

All Rights Reserved. * Adapted from the book Rat Race Relaxer:
Your Potential & The Maze of Life by JoAnna Carey.


JoAnna Carey, aka "The Rat Race Relaxer," is available for
radio, TV and print interviews. She's an energetic, young
entrepreneur who merges her life experience and business
success to perform enjoyable, influential presentations. She
is the producer and host of her own weekly television
program titled The Rat Race Relaxer™ Show and the author of
Rat Race Relaxer: Your Potential & The Maze of Life. Contact
Carey'D Away Enterprises, LLC; http://www.RatRaceRelaxer.com.

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Nov 29, 2004
50 Ways to Find Serenity At The Holidays

(when serenity is the last thing on your mind!)


· Ask yourself…"Am I being too hard on myself?"
· Ask yourself…"What do I have in my life that I can enjoy
at this moment?"
· Ask yourself …"How important is it?"
· Ask yourself…"What is my gut telling me?"
· Ask yourself…"Are my goals or expectations realistic?"
· Ask yourself…"Am I considering all my options?"
· Ask yourself…"What is it about this situation that I can
do something about?"
· Ask yourself…"Who in my family or support circle can help
me now?"
· Ask yourself…"What is it about this situation that I can
manage?"
· Ask yourself…"What can I change about my attitude?"
· Ask yourself…"Do I really want to be doing this?"
· Ask yourself…"What needs to be done first?"
· Ask supportive family members for support.
· Trust that you know what's best for you.
· How's your integrity? Are your thoughts, feelings and
actions matching? If not, what can you do about it?
· Forgive yourself...being angry hurts your soul.
· Buy yourself...some flowers or send yourself a card!
· Forgive someone...being angry uses lots of energy.
· Happiness is...enjoying what you have.
· Change negative self-talk into positive affirmations...I
am ____________.
· Tell someone who cares about you what is bothering you.
· Call a friend…to talk or go out for ________________.
· Call someone...to let them know that you are thinking
about them.
· Call someone...Go out to lunch, for coffee or for a walk.
· Breath...take 3 deep breaths. Hold it to the count of 3.
Slowly exhale. Do this 2 times or until you calm down
· Go to the movies, concert or play.
· Call a friend for support.
· Find a quiet place to read a book.
· Get a ...massage, manicure or pedicure.
· Connect...Join a club or organization. Volunteer in some
way.
· Make a list of the 10 things you're tolerating.
· Read a book for 30-minutes.
· Write a list of the things you are grateful for.
· Learn how to say NO! (without feeling guilty!)
· Do absolutely nothing!
· Sit down. Possibly listen to some enjoyable music with a
cup of your favorite beverage.
· Rent a movie that makes you laugh.
· Speed up or slow down. Only you know which you need to
do!
· Get enough sleep...take a nap if you need to.
· Exercise...go for a walk by yourself or with someone you
love. Do whatever type of exercise you're willing to do.
· Spend 30 minutes doing something you really, really
enjoy.
· Purchase something...that you can afford and want.
· Do something on your "To Complete" list... or start a
list.
· Find a quiet place...go into the bathroom and lock the
door if you must! Close your eyes for a few moments and
think about something positive.
· Do something special for someone else...and don't tell
them what you did!
· Draw or color. Remember that your children's books
belong to them so ask permission!
· Meditate and pray... By yourself or as part of a group.
· Remember...what my life purpose is.
· Remember...that no one is perfect.
· Saying "no" to others often means saying "yes" to you!

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© 2004 Maria Marsala, Business Builder and former Wall
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Nov 4, 2004
Keep Yourself Whole

I want to offer you an analogy I learned about when I was a college
student at Duke University. Envision your life as a stool

with legs that represent three critical areas:

· Self- serving your own needs and interests

· Kids- attending to the needs of children and your
relationship
with them

· Relationships with others- nurturing relationships
with a partner,
extended family and friends

If we lose touch with any one leg, the stool will wobble and be
difficult to balance. If we lose touch with two of the legs,

the stool will fall.

In our society, many stools risk wobbling, and eventually falling.
If you stay home full-time, it's easy to let the role of

"mom" take over your life- as you strive to schedule numerous sports
and enrichment activities for your kids and attend to

their needs. If you work full-time, you may find yourself giving
every minute of your free time to your children. In either

case, you risk over-identifying with one role- "mother" and
neglecting others.

If your stool is wobbling, you risk burnout, becoming sick or
injured, or some other sign your body may use to express the
imbalance. You risk becoming detached from others you care about as
well as from your true self and your authentic happiness.

Our kids deserve excellent care, unconditional love and ample
attention. After the foundation is set, however,they grow up

and move on. It's wise for us to make sure we have something vital
left inside when they do.

Although "mom" may be your greatest priority, as it is mine, it is
unlikely the only role you have. You are also an

individual- as well as perhaps a wife, sister, daughter or friend.
Take the time to consider all your roles and whether you

are leaving enough room in your life to nurture them.

Bria Simpson, MA
Life Coach and Parenting Specialist


© 2004 by Bria Simpson
All rights and media reserved.

email: bria@briacoach.com
web:
http://www.briacoach.com Helping moms strengthen and balance their family lives while
rediscovering their own passions and interests.

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Oct 22, 2004
THE GROUND RULES TO PLANNING YOUR LIFE


Life planning requires a holistic approach. By this I mean
you must consider that each area of your life - whether
personal, relationship, family, or career - will affect the
other areas, now or sometime in the future. To be successful
requires planning a life, one that includes your personal
goals, your relationship goals, your family goals, and your
career or business goals.

The first consideration in composing a life is to be brave.
You may have to do radical surgery on yourself. You will
probably find that your basic values as a human being are
sound, but that their expression in the real world will have
to change. Before your children were born you probably had
notions about good parenting. After the children came along,
and with each stage they go through, you probably gain a new
appreciation for how well your own parents handled such a
complicated task. When you were a young adult in your early
twenties, developing a relationship with your new spouse was
based on the needs and goals of youth. Your marriage today,
as an older, wiser couple, may require revamping to keep up
with individual, family, and career development. Even the
career path in which you chose to involve yourself may have
been suited to you at thirty, but at forty-five has lost its
appeal.

When people face a crisis or even just an ordinary problem,
they are tempted to try a simple change. They change jobs,
change spouses, build a new house, and so on. These simple
changes are supposed to make them feel better - and sometimes
they do, for a while. But in the long run the new job
fizzles, the new spouse presents problems remarkably similar
to those the previous spouse presented, and the new house is
still not quite big enough. Rather than waste your time with
pointless changes, compose a life, and plan for meaningful
change. Change your map of reality to include the
possibilities that you (your spouse and your family) are
capable of, even if this involves painful and difficult
work.

Before composing your life plan, it is important to
understand the ground rules. If you jump into a new plan too
quickly, you may be repeating the mistakes of the past. Take
your time. Follow these ground rules. After you have
thoroughly explored the territory, assemble the pieces and
weave the new tapestry.

1. PLAN WITH YOUR SPOUSE AND OTHERS WHO ARE SIGNIFICANT
IN YOUR LIFE. Getting others' feedback is imperative. It
keeps you aware that you are not in this life alone. Even
when you are planning a life goal that seems so personal
that it could not possibly be relevant to anyone but
yourself, ask others for their opinions. Many of your
personal goals can be thwarted by the unexpected demands of
other areas of your life.

2. DEVELOP GOOD COMMUNICATION SKILLS. Becoming an
excellent communicator will assist you in communicating
with yourself as well as others. As important as these
skills are in learning about the ones you love and work
with, learning to listen to yourself (i.e., to trust your
intuition) will move you toward the most powerful decisions
in your life.

3. BRAINSTORM. Be open to new understandings about the
interdependence of love and work. Look at different models
than what you are used to. Brainstorm as many options as you
can think of for redefining your relationship, yourself,
your family life, and your career.

4. BE OPEN. Let go of all the reasons you should not
or cannot do something. Do not turn away any option while
you are brainstorming. Later, as you develop a plan to
integrate these new notions, you can discard the unworkable
ones. But remember, even the unworkable option today may
prove workable sometime in the future.

5. SHOOT FOR THE MOON. Allow yourself and your
significant others to dream. Plan for the optimum in all
areas of your life. A common mistake is settling for the
average when with a little extra effort you could produce
something extraordinary. You may not get to the moon in all
cases, but you are certain to fail if you never try.

6. PLAN FOR THE WORST. This sounds a little pessimistic,
but the value is in planning. If you have contingency plans,
you feel less threatened by the unknown. However, it is
important to not be guided by your thoughts of the worst
possibilities. Then your plans take on the shape of fear and
failure.

7. BE FLEXIBLE. Ultimately, the life plan you develop
will encompass as many areas of your life as you are aware
of, but no plan is perfect or permanent. Life is full of
surprises. Be prepared to change the plan with the evolution
of yourself as an individual, as a marital partner, as a parent,
and as a businessperson.

By incorporating all of the ground rules for successful life
planning into the development of your life plan, you will
automatically be using your flexibility. The combination of
discussing your dreams with others, practicing your
listening skills, brainstorming, remaining open to all
possibilities, shooting for the moon, and planning for the
worst, puts you in a position to really get to know
yourself. Once this is accomplished, you are able to
utilize this knowledge to shape your personal life plan.

Copyright © 2004 Kathy J. Marshack, Ph.D., P.S.

Kathy J. Marshack, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist with
over thirty years of experience as a marriage & family
therapist. Visit her website -http://www.self-helpcentral.com,
for more of her practical self-help advice. Sign up for her
free ezine for the latest self-help information and special
discounts on wellness products at
http://www.self-helpcentral.com/newsletter.htm.

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